Living Out Loud Discussion Series
Living Out Loud is a discussion series that openly unpacks real scenarios and issues that arise in professional and “buttoned-up” settings. Join host Charmaine Utz, Relational DEI Expert, and special guests as they process and explore experiences that go unspoken in workplaces. This series is for leaders in organizations and higher education, as well as employees and students who are invested in diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI). Gain insights, learn from our communal lessons, and explore DEI topics in a relatable and informative way. Tune in to explore practical tools to engage in meaningful conversations and create positive change. Let’s get into it!
Episodes
Monday Sep 25, 2023
Monday Sep 25, 2023
If you're feeling frustrated and overwhelmed by the lack of progress in creating a safe and inclusive culture in your social services organization, despite your best efforts to lead and implement change, then you are not alone! Many professionals like yourself may be experiencing a disconnect between their actions and the desired outcome. You may find that despite conducting trainings, implementing policies, and encouraging open dialogue, there is still a lack of accountability and meaningful change within your organization.
There is a lot that can be learned from clients. Join me and Living Unapologetically consultant, Kendrick Dial, in an open dialogue where we learn lessons from Jason Vicente, social service leader and one of our bias coaching clients. You are in for a treat!
In this episode, you will be able to:
Elevate your consulting and leadership techniques with an informed bias coaching perspective.
Create a supportive space for discussion and growth, emphasizing the need for openness and vulnerability.
Proactively approach DEI consulting challenges, preparing for transformation and addressing ingrained biases.
Unveil the intricate interplay of intersectionality in everyday life, highlighting the value of diverse leadership.
Spearhead culture change by driving proactive solutions and instilling model behavior in your workspace.
The guest for this episode is Jason Vicente
We are honored to have the presence of Jason Vicente. His journey is rooted in social services, spending nine impactful years working with young adults who experience homelessness, the LGBTQ communities, and foster care systems. His experience isn't just professional – it's profoundly personal. Jason is here to share his insights and perspectives on what it's been like to receive bias coaching from Living Unapologetically. His unique experiences offer a fresh perspective to leaders looking to grow and foster a culture of inclusivity and respect.
One of My Fav Moments: Embrace Challenges in DEI ConsultingNavigating the complexities inherent to diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) consulting can be tough, but embracing these challenges can lead to more meaningful change. Jason and Kendrick advise that leaders need to exemplify accountability, humility, and openness for successful DEI initiatives. Additionally, they underscore the necessity of readiness and commitment among clients to engage in deep introspection and growth. This transformation, while challenging, can be incredibly rewarding, leading to profound organizational changes and heightened responsibility towards biases and systemic barriers.
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To get in touch with Jason Vicente, you can contact him here:
The Brew Inn Podcast- https://linktr.ee/thebrewinnpodcast
To get in touch with Kendrick Dial, you can contact him here:
https://kendrickdial.com/
The key moments in this episode are:00:00:00 - Setting the Stage, 00:04:46 - Experience in Bias Coaching, 00:07:32 - Creating a Safe Space, 00:11:11 - Internal Struggle Points, 00:14:52 - The Challenge of Prioritizing Learning, 00:17:14 - Balancing Workload and Learning, 00:18:32 - The Practical Aspect of Coaching, 00:21:21 - Applying Learnings in Personal Life, 00:25:39 - Reflecting on the Experience, 00:30:16 - Balancing Structure and Openness, 00:32:36 - Approaching Organizations and Setting Boundaries, 00:36:29 - Choosing the Right Clients, 00:39:41 - The Role of Consultants, 00:43:22 - Readiness and Self-Reflection, 00:45:57 - The Importance of Self-Reflection, 00:47:25 - Addressing Deflections, 00:48:41 - Creating a Safe Space, 00:51:01 - Personalization and Exploration, 00:55:05 - Modeling What's Possible,
Monday Sep 11, 2023
Monday Sep 11, 2023
Join me and guest Krystal Williams Payne as we unpack the layers of learning, unlearning, and relearning, and be prepared for a shocking personal revelations. We share our lives transparently and apply our learning to what it means for people in the workplace. Find out how we navigate the emotional and physical challenges of growth and change.
In this episode, you will be able to:
Explore the dynamic cycle of learning, unlearning, and relearning to propel your transformation.
Realize the intriguing link between physical engagement and an effective absorption of knowledge.
Navigate the three critical stages in the learning realm: Receiving fresh knowledge, shedding prior assumptions, and embracing renewed outlooks.
Participate in an encompassing physical connection during your learning journey for an all-rounded internalization.
Cultivate a sense of trust and openness to establish a conducive space for self-evolution.
The guest for this episode is Krystal Williams Payne
Step into the fascinating mind of Krystal Williams Payne, a licensed marriage and family therapist, yoga instructor, and sound healer. She brilliantly integrates these aspects, painting a picture of what it means to truly be connected with ourselves. She espouses a refreshing focus on challenging established narratives and getting closer to a healthier relationship with our bodies and minds. Proactively engaging with her expertise, Krystal shines a light on the trials of personal growth, making way for a journey of discovery and enlightenment.
One of My Fave Moments: The Challenges of DEI WorkDEI (Diversity, Equity, Inclusion) work can be immensely rewarding but also quite rigorous. It requires an ongoing and layered process of learning. It challenges frames, reframes, and shifts perspectives on things that are personal to people, inviting professionals to constantly question, reassess, and adjust their attitudes and approaches. Krystal and I discuss the unique challenges DEI practitioners face. We emphasize the critical need for self-exploration and emotional resilience in our professions. Krystal and I highlight that practitioners should commit to deeply understanding and managing their emotions, capable of sitting with discomfort. This forms an essential bridge to facilitate growth in others, underlining the need for DEI practitioners to practice what they preach consistently.
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http://www.livingunapologetically.com
http://www.youtube.com/@livingunapologetically
https://www.linkedin.com/in/charmaine-utz-lcsw/
http://www.instagram.com/theunapologetictherapist/
http://www.facebook.com/livingunapologeticallyservices/
https://twitter.com/LivingDEI
To get in touch with Krystal Williams Payne, you can contact her here:
https://www.youtube.com/@yogabykrystal/featured
https://www.tiktok.com/@krystaltheyogatherapist
The key moments in this episode are:00:00:00 - Setting the Stage
00:04:55 - Introduction to Learning, Unlearning, and Relearning,00:06:52 - Nuances and Complexities of Learning, 00:10:01 - The Physical and Emotional Experience of Unlearning, 00:12:28 - The Challenges of DEI Work, 00:13:14 - The Importance of Experiencing the Ring, 00:14:50 - The Reluctance to Enter the Ring, 00:16:28 - The Invitation to Trust, 00:19:31 - The Role of Consultants, 00:21:00 - Process Over Destination, 00:22:17 - Personal Example: Relationship with Food, 00:29:55 - Benefits of Embracing a New Perspective, 00:32:05 - The Ongoing Process of Relearning and Unlearning, 00:34:27 - The Complexity of Personal Growth, 00:37:01 - Applying Personal Growth to Professional Settings, 00:38:36 - Tangible Steps for Personal Growth, 00:45:40 - The Importance of Feeling Emotions, 00:47:59 - The Scary Process of Feeling, 00:48:52 - Communicating and Recovering from Intense Feelings, 00:49:47 - Going to the Depths for Real Change, 00:51:37 - Closing Remarks and Contact Information,
Monday Aug 28, 2023
How to Flow With Feedback When Leading DEI Efforts ft Bola Ruff
Monday Aug 28, 2023
Monday Aug 28, 2023
In the world of DEI work, feedback can be a powerful tool for growth and change. But what happens when feedback becomes personal and DEI pioneers are left questioning their approach? Join us as we explore the challenges of receiving feedback in DEI efforts and the importance of understanding the layers of feedback to prompt the potential for change. But be warned, the path to progress may not always be smooth...
In this episode, you will be able to:
Grasp the essentials of spearheading a successful DEI journey.
Unearth the technique of processing feedback critically and constructively in DEI endeavors.
Decipher coping mechanisms to alleviate discomfort emerging from DEI work.
Realize the significance of emotional well-being and self-regulation in navigating DEI journeys.
Figure out how to build an inviting and supportive setting for DEI-centric actions.
The guest for this episode is Bola Ruff
Meet Bola Ruff, our incredibly insightful guest for today. Bola's multicultural background as a British-born Nigerian woman raised in the United States allows her to bring a broad understanding of human interactions and their implications in DEI efforts. Her profession as a clinical preceptor and therapist for Thriveworks has honed her analytical and empathetic understanding of individuals and their interaction in communal settings. Beyond her professional commitments, Bola values quality time with friends and family, enjoys exploring new places, and loves to embrace the outdoors through leisurely walks. Her comprehensive professional and personal experiences make her a compelling voice in the DEI conversation.
One of My Fav Takeaways: Understanding Key Strategies for Managing DiscomfortEngaging in DEI work invariably involves challenging and sometimes uncomfortable conversations. Leaders must be equipped to handle this discomfort by developing coping mechanisms, practicing emotional regulation, and actively embracing difficult conversations. Exploring clinical perspectives to navigate discomfort and maintaining curiosity can facilitate dialogues, contributing meaningfully towards fostering an inclusive environment.
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http://www.livingunapologetically.com
http://www.youtube.com/@livingunapologetically
https://www.linkedin.com/in/charmaine-utz-lcsw/
http://www.instagram.com/theunapologetictherapist/
http://www.facebook.com/livingunapologeticallyservices/
To get in touch with Bola Ruff, you can contact her here:
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/omobolaruff/
The key moments in this episode are:00:00:00 - Setting the Stage, 00:04:40 - Feedback in DEI Work, 00:07:52 - Feedback for Those Leading the Work, 00:12:25 - When There is An Absence of DEI Work, 00:14:49 - Clinical Aspect in DEI Work, 00:16:54 - Recognizing and Regulating Responses to Feedback, 00:19:30 - Expectations and Standards in DEI Work, 00:21:29 - Holding and Processing Feedback, 00:25:53 - Returning with Messaging and Questions, 00:29:43 - Moving Forward and Accepting Feedback, 00:33:12 - The Importance of Understanding the Work, 00:34:20 - Supporting DEI Efforts, 00:35:13 - Emotional Support in DEI Work, 00:38:57 - Negotiating Feedback and Expectations, 00:44:31 - Giving Behavior-Specific Feedback, 00:50:28 - Introduction and Contact Information, 00:50:39 - Connecting and Deepening Practice, 00:51:11 - Conclusion
Monday Aug 14, 2023
Monday Aug 14, 2023
A thoughtful leader confronts the bittersweet journey of leaving her long-time position, grappling with internalized oppression and the pursuit of aligning personal values, while navigating the challenging conflict between privilege and identity. The conversation went in an unexpected direction which illustrated the nuanced nature of reflective process.
In this episode, you will be able to:
Discover the transformational power of self-reflection following a transition from leadership.
Absorb profound life lessons influenced by personal principles.
Understand the trap of societal pressure to chase position and wealth over personal fulfillment.
Uncover the crucial role of courageous communication in cultivating inclusive environments.
Get into the complex intersection of identity, privilege, and oppression in leaders.
Meet Sharon Chun Wetterau
Sharon is a luminary in the field of social work and higher education with a 30-year career in direct practice and leadership. Sharon's journey shines a light on the value of every professional development stage, from frontline practitioner to program coordinator and leadership roles in notable educational institutions. Facing the challenges and rewards of each phase has only refined her insight and fueled her dedication to her craft. Sharon's reflective approach following her departure from a decade-long role at Dominguez offers an invaluable example to leaders transitioning from their familiar spaces. As a testament to her commitment to self, Sharon now serves in a direct practice role, underlining her belief in treasuring each career stage and aligning professional decisions with personal values.
One of My Fav Moments: The Transformational Power of Self-Reflection:Self-reflection is a crucial tool for personal growth and is especially powerful during career transitions. It enables leaders to reassess their actions, decisions, and leadership style, providing valuable insights for future work engagements. This self-reflective process can also help individuals realign their career goals with their personal values, leading to heightened feelings of fulfillment and job satisfaction.
In this episode, Sharon gave herself to the moment which allowed for a real life moment to unpack in real time. It was an example of the learning process leaders avoid when behavior change is what they want... This is a must see!
Share this episode with people so they can learn with you- use it as a discussion tool with groups, teams, supervisors, and your network. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and follow us across our platforms!
https://www.livingunapologetically.com
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https://www.instagram.com/theunapologetictherapist/
https://www.facebook.com/livingunapologeticallyservices/
https://twitter.com/LivingDEI
To get in touch with Sharon Chun Wetterau, you can contact her here:
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharon-chun-wetterau-a0183619/
The key moments in this episode are:00:00:00 - Setting the Stage00:02:41 - The Impact of Sharon's Leadership, 00:06:05 - Reflecting on Change, 00:09:11 - "Aha" Moments in Reflection, 00:12:37 - Societal Pressure and Reflection, 00:17:16 - Unexpected Changes and Personal Growth, 00:18:30 - The Impact of Being the First, 00:18:59 - Developing a Critical Race Theory Lens, 00:20:35 - Not Honoring Values in the Workplace, 00:24:54 - Lessons from Past Mistakes, 00:33:14 - Communication and Its Impact, 00:34:45 - Reflection and Learning, 00:35:53 - Similarities in Higher Ed and Organizations, 00:39:04 - Circling Back and Behavior Change, 00:41:52 - Experiential Learning and Reflection, 00:49:20 - Negative Narratives and Privilege, 00:50:41 - The Complexity of Experiences, 00:51:35 - Gratitude and Validation, 00:52:54 - Choosing a Different Path, 00:54:00 - Reflection and Change,
Monday Jul 31, 2023
Monday Jul 31, 2023
Does this sound familiar? You've been told to avoid discussing power, privilege, and oppression in the workplace, believing it will disrupt harmony and productivity. But by keeping silent, you're feeling the pain of unaddressed dynamics and the perpetuation of inequality. It's time to challenge the ineffective approach and embrace open dialogue to uncover the subtle practices that hinder progress. Join us as we navigate through uncomfortable conversations, cultivate safe spaces, and gain the skills to break down power dynamics in the workplace.
In this episode, you will be able to:
Uncover the subtle practices of power dynamics and oppression in professional environments.
Learn the art of cultivating safe spaces for dialogues about race and identity.
Gain insights into the intricacies of discussing power, privilege, and oppression.
Acquire skills for steering through uncomfortable conversations on power and privilege.
Understand the pivotal role of leadership in encouraging open discourse and maintaining safe spaces.
Meet Kendrick Dial
Kendrick is a multi-talented individual with a passion for combining mental health, social justice, and the arts to create meaningful change. Kendrick, an alumnus of University of Southern California and a BA holder in Africana Studies in Psychology and an MSW holder, brings a wealth of experience, which also includes his time served in the US Navy as a radar technician and a substance abuse counselor. He also works as a Practice Coach at the Academy for Professional Excellence. Kendrick isn't just any professional, he's a creative coach for his business, Creative Engagement and a frontman, songwriter, and producer for the award-winning band The Lyrical Groove - showcasing his diverse talent.
One of My FAV Moments: The Need for Conversations on Power, Privilege, and OppressionCreating open dialogue allows for a deeper understanding of the complexities surrounding power, privilege, and oppression. These conversations aid in highlighting societal inequalities and the importance of creating an inclusive environment. The key to fostering these conversations is to encourage inquiry, acknowledgment of individual experiences, and facing the discomfort these convos likely bring. Exploring these dynamics can foster change and help create more inclusive environments.
In our discussion, we highlight the significance of these discussions in professional settings. We note that organizations must face the discomfort caused by these conversations and engage in them regardless. Both of us share the belief that these discussions can help people recognize the impact of power dynamics on decision-making and organizational culture. More importantly, it is encouraged that we all regularly practice leaning into discomfort, asking questions, and confronting personal biases as potential pathways for meaningful change.
Share this episode with people so they can learn with you- use it as a discussion tool with groups, teams, supervisors, and your network. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and follow us across our platforms!
https://www.livingunapologetically.com
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https://www.facebook.com/livingunapologeticallyservices/
https://twitter.com/LivingDEI
To get in touch with Kendrick, you can contact him here:
https://kendrickdial.com/
Instagram: @thelyricalgroove @creativeengagement @hiddenvibessd
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FREE RESOURCES & TOOLS TO DEEPEN YOUR WORK:
30-Day Bias Challenge: https://www.livingunapologetically.com/30-day-bias-challenge
Equity-minded Group Agreements & Bias-Conscious Leadership Self-Assessment: https://www.livingunapologetically.com/tip-sheets-guides
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Tuesday Jul 04, 2023
Addressing Hurtful Impacts in Professional Settings ft Minola Clark Manson
Tuesday Jul 04, 2023
Tuesday Jul 04, 2023
Join Charmaine Utz and Minola Clark Manson as they delve into the complexities of addressing hurtful impacts on people in professional and personal settings. They discuss the nuances of difficult situations often experienced in workplaces and offer solutions to move courageously and responsibility through impacting others. Find yourself in these situations too? Learn with us in the Living Out Loud Discussion Series.
In this episode, you will be able to:
Discover the significance of curiosity and honoring contrasting opinions.
Address difficult conversations and exercise your leadership influence.
Reflect on your inner self, set boundaries, and prioritize self-rejuvenation.
Strengthen courageous conversation skills with responsibility and combating prejudices.
Cultivate a mindset for growth and continuous progress in all facets of life.
This guest for this episode is Minola Clark Manson
With extensive experience in executive management, Minola Clark Manson has made an impact within health and human service organizations, nonprofits, and governmental bodies. As a leader who understands the importance of growing people beyond their current roles, Minola has developed a reputation for promoting inclusive and strengths-based practices. Her dedication to diversity, equity, and inclusion, anti-racism, and trauma-informed leadership has led to transformative changes in her work. Minola's keen ability to be present and curious in difficult situations makes her an insightful guest for sharing strategies on addressing hurtful impacts in professional settings.
One of My Fav Moments: Taking Responsibility for Our WordsIt is crucial for individuals to take responsibility for their words and actions, especially in professional settings. This involves becoming more self-aware, reflecting on one's intentions, and being proactive in addressing any potential negative impact. Furthermore, taking ownership not only demonstrates respect and empathy to others, but it also fosters a culture of accountability and growth in the workplace. During their conversation, both Charmaine Utz and Minola Clark Manson emphasize the importance of self-reflection and understanding one's intentions. Manson shares how practicing self-awareness has helped her make necessary changes in her behavior and prevent causing unintentional harm. By taking responsibility for their words and actions, individuals can contribute to fostering a positive and collaborative environment in the workplace.
Share this episode with people so they can learn with you- use it as a discussion tool with groups, teams, supervisors, and your network. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and follow us across our platforms!
https://www.livingunapologetically.com
https://www.linkedin.com/in/charmaine-utz-lcsw/
https://www.instagram.com/theunapologetictherapist/
https://www.facebook.com/livingunapologeticallyservices/
https://twitter.com/LivingDEI
To get in touch with Minola, you can contact her here:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/minola-clark-manson-365499a/
FREE RESOURCES & TOOLS TO DEEPEN YOUR WORK:
30-Day Bias Challenge: https://www.livingunapologetically.com/30-day-bias-challenge
Equity-minded Group Agreements & Bias-Conscious Leadership Self-Assessment: https://www.livingunapologetically.com/tip-sheets-guides
Guided Meditations: COMING SOON!!
*New freebies are always being added
BUY BIAS-CONSCIOUS LEADERSHIP:
https://www.livingunapologetically.com/bias-conscious-leadership
Thanks for listening!